Trauma the Unwanted Visitor

Let's talk about something deep today - trauma. You know, it's like an unwanted visitor that often shows up in our lives without an invitation. But here's the thing: many of us don't even realize we're carrying trauma because we've normalized our experiences.

Take a moment. Really take a moment. I want you to think back to your childhood. What images come to mind? Are they filled with laughter and warm hugs, or do you remember walking on eggshells, never quite sure what mood you'd encounter when you got home?

Think about how life looked for you growing up. Did you feel safe? Were you able to be a child, or did you have to grow up too fast? Sometimes, we don't realize that what we thought was normal was actually far from it.

Let's dig a little deeper. Was your home a stable one? Did you know where you'd be sleeping each night? Was there food on the table? Stability isn't just about having a roof over your head - it's about emotional security too.

Now, here's where it gets really personal - your relationship with your parents. Were they present? Not just physically, but emotionally? Did they see you, hear you, understand you? Or did you spend years trying to be seen, trying to be good enough?

Many of us have battled addictions - whether it's substances, relationships, work, or even social media. Have you ever wondered why you're drawn to certain behaviors that you know aren't good for you? Often, these are just bandages we use to cover deeper wounds.

And those poor choices we've made? You know the ones - the relationships we stayed in too long, the opportunities we ran from, the bridges we burned. These aren't random acts of self-sabotage. They're often breadcrumbs leading back to unresolved trauma.

But here's the thing - recognizing trauma isn't about blame or shame. It's about understanding. It's about looking at your life with compassion and saying, "Oh, now I get it. Now I understand why I do what I do."

Because once you understand where your patterns come from, you can begin to heal. You can start making different choices. You can finally break free from the cycles that have been holding you back.

So ask yourself these questions. Sit with them. And remember - healing starts with honesty, with looking at your life and acknowledging what's happened. You don't have to carry these burdens alone anymore